I what?
It's been brought to my attention that people I work with find me intimidating. To be fair, these people are fairly new and don't know me that well, however, I still find this shocking. I sat down with one of my fellow employees who felt this way and told her to explain it to me because I just don't see myself coming across that way. I never yell, I never get highly emotional, so I just couldn't figure out why they had this impression of me. What I was told is that I have high expectations and it's not necessarily that I intimidate them, it's that they think I hold them at such a level that they are scared of disappointing me. Weird huh? You live with yourself every day and yet can still be blind to parts of yourself.
I think it's because you seem to be the kind of person who is a thinker. You hold alot back and people don't trust that as much as a person who just comes out with it. They get the idea that you're weighing things or measuring things out in your mind. People don't like to feel judged. The funny thing is that everyone wants to be in good standing. it's human nature so then you find that people WANT you to approve of them even though the idea of you judging them is so unacceptable. ^_^ Irony!
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